A: if you put your ankles together and your thighs touch a little
B: if they touch a lot.
C: if you see a space between your thighs.
If you have picked A or B, please go lose weight, and if you pick C, congratulations you are HOT.
In March, Target got blasted for photo-shopping "thigh gap" in their swim suit models. Oops they, also photo shopped other parts. I am guessing there is a editing person (don't even know their proper title) somewhere looking for a job.
Here's the deal we all have our "thigh gappage." Yes, I have friends who were born with model legs and I could have them eat fried chicken all day long and their legs would never touch, but guarantee there is something else like my "thigh gappage issues" that they look at and analyze or critique about themselves.
I have a friend that told me she has stood in the mirror and jumped up and down to see all the places on her body that still jiggle. Why the heck would we do this to ourselves? Why have we bought into the lie that we have to have "thigh-gap."
When I looked up thigh-gap for a picture for this blog I read that teens are making this a real thing. They are starving themselves so they can try to attain the photoshop body that DOESN'T really exist in the Target ad.
The weird thing is that this probably started in MY mind as a teen too and still sticks with me at 35 years of age. I never had anyone tell me I had to be a certain weight or body type, and I have always been petite, yet just seeing a stupid image of most likely a photo-shopped model made me think I had to attain this one day.
I AM MAD AT MYSELF FOR BUYING INTO THIS!
I AM ANGRY that I sat in front of the mirror yesterday and asked Grant why my thighs still touched? I am angry that just this year I started to feel comfortable in shorts. (I thank Crossfit for embracing women with big muscular legs that touch, those girls sport their
Lululemon speed shorts like they don't even care.)
Thigh-gappage will never be my goal. I work out and eat right because I want to live a long and healthy life for my family. I love the energy and confidence it gives me. I love the endorphin rush I get when all chaos has broken lose in my house the 30 minutes before I grab a barbell. I love competing and challenging myself to learn new things.
I WILL NOT buy into thigh-gappage.
I WILL NOT have my little girl peek into my room while I am frowning at my thighs in the mirror.
NOPE, not going to do it.
I REFUSE to believe and let others believe they have to strive for this perfection that's not reality.
I REFUSE for women and men to believe that being the best version of themselves is not enough.
I want myself and others to know being healthy and being fit is not about striving for the best legs, the best physique, the hottest mom status at the pool, but being healthy and taking care of ourselves is only a piece of this journey of WHOLENESS.
I want to be a woman that strives for WHOLENESS and not society's sick version of acceptance. Because I know what WHOLENESS is. The definition of Wholeness is wanting nothing, complete totality.
When I read that definition I think what would the world be like if all of us felt WHOLE? If we didn't need anything, or want, or covet someone elses something. If we were content in our bodies, our jobs, our families, our social status. This doesn't just happen over night but I think once we start to think of journeying to Wholeness instead of journeying to that perfect weight or look, a switch in our brain will turn on and we will think,
"Wow, this is the journey I want to be on, this seems right. This seems good. This seems like what I was meant for."
All of us have our "thing" our "thigh-gappage," we can't seem to shake, the body part that someone commented on negatively when we were little, the photo-shopped image we think we need to be, the picture in our mind that makes us feel worthy and beautiful that we can never attain. I can tell you all day long that you were "created as a Masterpiece, ALL of you, even the parts you have issue with, but until you truly believe it and live it, it will just be empty words.
Here's how I am going to get my head around this "thigh-gappage" issue.
1. I am going to pursue wholeness of mind, body, spirit in the best way I know how.
2. I am going to eat healthy, work out, and wear speed shorts because I love it not because I want some gap in my legs.
3. I am going to help others let go of their "thigh-gappage" and pursue wholeness.
4. I will not compare myself to Gisele Bundchen or my other friends who have great legs, instead I will celebrate them.
5. I will have accountability in my life that will knock me out when I go pull my inner thighs back in the mirror.
BE the BEST VERSION OF YOU. Let go of whatever it is that is your "thigh gappage."